I overheard this statement recently, “I hate them with every fiber of my being!”  Goodness, that’s a whole lot of emotion to carry around with you.  Especially considering that its negative emotion.

I promise you that I  can’t think of one person that I have ever felt this away about.  Oh I’ve been angry.  I’ve harbored a grudge from time to time.   I’ve cut off friendships, simply because it was beneficial for everyone involved.  I know sometimes you just can’t get along with someone and its best just to cut ties and be on your way.

But to say you hate someone.  An actual person.  You hate them as a person.  I can even sort of sympathize with detesting a particular kind of conduct, a belief that doesn’t coincide with yours, politics, etc.  After all you don’t have to agree with everyone.

You hear a child say “I hate you!!”  They say that to hurt you and from lack of experience in dealing with emotions that they are feeling.  As you grow older and become better educated about people skills, you learn to express your differences or your unhappiness in another manner.  I think most people are familiar with the term “polite society”.

A lot of senseless “talk” comes from either a lack of education or research.  It also suggest to me that the speaker may be lazy.  After all its much easier to just say you hate someone, rather than have a discussion about what you might disagree with this person about.  You might not like their choices, their lifestyle, their beliefs, or their politics.  But because they may not have sufficient information or verbal skills they resort to the 3 year old in them and say “I hate them!!!”

What gets me is someone that touts them self as a kind, generous, spiritual person.  They are givers not takers.  They are doing the best they can and just wish people would understand that.  They wish that they could “give” more, do more for their fellow man.

But then you hear them callously say “I hate them with every fiber of my being!!”  If we lived in a society with no morals, no human kindness, no meaning, no goodness, maybe just maybe we would live in a world where we could “hate” someone.  But basically I believe we are genuinely people who seek the goodness in others.

“We hate some persons because we do not know them; and will not know them because we hate them.” – Charles Caleb Colton

“I will permit no man to narrow and degrade my soul by making me hate him.” – Booker T. Washington

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