What is it about cutting off all contact with a person in any way, shape, or form that would make them think you are still interested in what they have to say?

In my life I have very rarely made the conscience decision to cut ties with a person.  Most of the time things happen in a relationship that can be fixed.  There are misunderstandings, words are said in haste, etc..  But occasionally, rarely, you have to realize that a relationship is totally and completely unhealthy.  It becomes toxic and there is no going back.  You realize the warnings you were given by others should have been heeded.

You finally reach a breaking point where it really just doesn’t matter any longer.  It doesn’t matter what I think and it certainly doesn’t matter what the other person thinks.  Just turn off the social media, turn off the emails, turn off the phone calls, turn off the text messages and move on.  Its over.  Its done.

Sometimes people cross your path and you don’t immediately realize what they are.  Other people may warn you. “Don’t get too close.”  But you laugh and think to yourself that the advice is unfounded, prejudiced.  So you close your ears to that advice. 

But over time you start to notice inconsistencies, untruths, exaggerations.  Statements are made that just don’t add up.  You’re told one thing about a situation and then a few weeks later another explanation.  The funny thing you’ve never even asked for an explanation.  But the explanation continues to change anyways.

Things are said to you that maybe in hindsight you should have spoken up.  But you didn’t.  You keep quiet, not wanting to rock the boat.  So as things are twisted around it just becomes one big mess that doesn’t seem like it is ever going to end.

Well I’m done.  I don’t care to discuss it.  I don’t want to analyze it.  I don’t care who said what to who.  I don’t care who did what for who.  If I cut someone out of my life I no longer care what they think or what they are doing.  I don’t owe anyone an explanation.  I alone choose who is an active part of my life.  I am an adult and will not allow myself to be sucked back into an arguments among adults that are absolutely and totally childish. 

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